I wonder what John Lubans would make of the above exchange. There's an article on his site that I quote in my dissertation - the one about 'saving the time of the user' - which suggests that he might tell me I was wrong, that giving the user a good experience trumps the 'no lending' policy in this case. Though maybe not. I do agree that we have some policies in which we don't really believe, and which we can't really justify, and in those cases we should be changing the policy, not punishing the user. But the reason we don't lend things is because we don't have an automated circulation system or any security tagging so things would go missing for sure, and the resources are too much in demand in any case. I have broken the rule a few times, for students in special circumstances, but I really don't think this should have been one of those times. The student was just pushing his luck, because he knows I'm nice. But you can't afford to be too nice, otherwise nobody believes you when you DO have to be firm and you spend half your days having circular conversations like the one above. I WANT to be responsive and help students and everything, I really do. They're not the enemy. But they're not my friends either, and I can't work if I'm doing them favours all the time.